Striking a Balance in a Mutually Loving Relationship

It’s amazing at how selfish people can be in relationships and how communication breaks down in so many ways, especially regarding sex. A recent article in The Huffington Post by Therese Borchard illustrates this perfectly.

In the article, written as a personal story, Ms. Borchard revealed how she and her husband have relegated their sex life to a scheduled two nights per week. This was dictated by her, because it “is the minimal number of times a week that [he] need[s] sex in order to be satisfied". Shouldn’t sex be a spontaneous and wonderful experience between two people who are truly attracted to one another? And shouldn’t it also be an expression of love between a man and woman, at least in a marriage?

In this poor man’s life sex has become nothing more than a duty for the woman. She seems to lack sexual desire entirely. Or at least has a very low libido. What happened to desire? This isn’t something unique. However, something like this can (and often does) lead to further problems in a marriage. There’s a huge disparity in sexual desire and understanding of what sex is all about.

Ms. Borchard states in her article that her husband might wish that they have sex every night. But of course that is impossible, as she implies. How sad is that; that they cannot communicate in order to both be satisfied sexually?

She tries to explain the scheduled sex as one or a combination of three things: “…just the beginning of an